I’ve noticed that I easily become so frustrated and discouraged with my life these days. And today I’ve finally realized why. I’m not patient enough with myself. I fail to see how far I’ve come and what all I’ve overcome. I especially fail to see that life–and any goal I set–is a journey. Therefore, I can’t expect to reach the destination immediately. It’s downright ridiculous!
The reality is we wouldn’t expect to go on vacation by stepping out our front door and immediately finding ourselves relaxing on some faraway tropical beach. So, why should we expect our hopes, dreams, and hard work to reach the end immediately? We shouldn’t.
A journey is challenging. It takes thoughtful planning. It takes appropriate preparation. It also takes plenty of patience and perseverance. Anyone who has attempted a long road trip or a vacation thousands of miles from home knows that if you are ill prepared or impatient, a million things can and will go wrong.
Can you imagine if we set out on a road trip in the way we approach our goals and life expectations? It wouldn’t be pretty. In fact, I wouldn’t be surprised to find many of us out of gas, traveling in the wrong direction, or giving up and turning back long before the trip even had a chance to get started.
I know I’m guilty of all three of these fatal errors…and more. However, I’m done. I’m finished having unrealistic expectations about myself, my life, and my goals. I’m ready to embrace the journey along with the destination. I still want to change a lot in my life, but I’m going to try to enjoy myself as I work towards those changes.
If I hit a roadblock or a detour along the way? It’s fine with me! I’ve always enjoyed little surprises anyway. One little obstacle doesn’t make or break a journey. Besides, some of the greatest things in life can be unexpected.
If I get a little lost along the way? No problem! I’ll be enjoying the new scenery as I get myself back on track.
Oh, and if I don’t reach the journey’s end when or even where I expected? It really isn’t that horrible. The trip can be just as fulfilling and enjoyable as the destination.
Life is all about the living part. Life is actively seeking to learn, to grow, and to become more. All that busy, noisy, chaotic, and messy stuff that falls between beginning and end–between birth and death–is what life on this earth is all about. We should be enjoying it and relishing it as it happens, not ignoring it as we yearn for the future. We’ll miss out on so much if we don’t enjoy the ride each and every step of the way.
© 2020 Amanda R. Dollak